Hi! The narration you make on post-event rumiation is quite clear. Actually, most people have experienced varios degrees of this; independently of how "sane" they consider themselves to be. Your text actually reminds me of some complicated rumiating experiences, also non-justified.
There is one thing, I think, can help coping with these proceses. One of the worst things about social anxiety is thinking that you can influence on the other people's opinión about you. It is like, if what others think, wether they like or dislike you, depended on what you did. Like some weird "control fantasy" in which the effect you produce on others dependa mainly or entirely on your own actions.
Actually, it does not. It helps a lot to remind yourself that, maybe, there is nothing you can do yo influence what others think about you.
You may meet lovely people, or jerkasses. Anyway, with you just being yourself (easier said than done) you will find your way around it. No need to regret whatever you have said or done.
Interestingly, there is also no way to predict how your actions or sayings would have influenced this or that person in particular. People... They are just too "weird". They may just celebrate some of these "regrettable" things.
Hope this helps! Anyway, congratulations on your first class, and wish you best of luck for Theo next ones! Everything will just be alright!
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Tobias 1104~3M
Most mental health condition symptoms are abnormal in degree rather than kind, and post-event rumination is no different. As I mentioned in the post, most people have memories of cringing at something extremely socially inappropriate that they did, like telling a joke to a group that palpably failed to land. The difference with social anxiety is that the threshold is much lower. I liken it to a fire alarm that's calibrated to go off when the room's just slightly warm.
I've found it interesting over the years how differently people seem to interpret the fundamental fears of people with social anxiety, or how differently those fundamental fears are for different individuals with the condition. The (futile) desire to influence others' opinions misses the mark for me personally. I've been planning to write yet another post today about this, so I might have posted that by the time you read this.
There is one thing, I think, can help coping with these proceses. One of the worst things about social anxiety is thinking that you can influence on the other people's opinión about you. It is like, if what others think, wether they like or dislike you, depended on what you did. Like some weird "control fantasy" in which the effect you produce on others dependa mainly or entirely on your own actions.
Actually, it does not. It helps a lot to remind yourself that, maybe, there is nothing you can do yo influence what others think about you.
You may meet lovely people, or jerkasses. Anyway, with you just being yourself (easier said than done) you will find your way around it. No need to regret whatever you have said or done.
Interestingly, there is also no way to predict how your actions or sayings would have influenced this or that person in particular. People... They are just too "weird". They may just celebrate some of these "regrettable" things.
Hope this helps! Anyway, congratulations on your first class, and wish you best of luck for Theo next ones! Everything will just be alright!
I've found it interesting over the years how differently people seem to interpret the fundamental fears of people with social anxiety, or how differently those fundamental fears are for different individuals with the condition. The (futile) desire to influence others' opinions misses the mark for me personally. I've been planning to write yet another post today about this, so I might have posted that by the time you read this.